If you were to choose your top three goals for 2015, would any of the three be about relationships with family members, or your role in your family?
Many times these relationships have a huge but largely ignored impact on us. We “forget” the discomfort of certain long-running family frictions or frustrations for most of the year because we’re so busy working on reaching goals in other parts of our lives, like career, money and friendships. But as soon as the holidays approach, those frictions and frustrations come front and center once again!
Well, having a perfect family holiday is actually quite simple, not matter what family you have or how they behave. Yes, it’s true! Note that I didn’t say “easy” – I said “simple.” That’s not to be misleading, it’s just to acknowledge that it’s totally do-able but will take some awareness and intentionality on your part!
But here’s how to do it, in 3 simple steps:
- Take three slow, deep breaths and FOCUS on a desired outcome for your holiday gatherings, making sure to state is as something positive that you want, NOT what you don’t want. For example, it could be, “Remember that my sister’s judgmental comments about my life are really all about HER thoughts. feelings, beliefs, etc., and NOT about ME – so I can remain neutral and compassionate no matter what she says.”
- Download holiday gift for 2014, “Making the Transition From 2014 to 2015: Messages of Inspiration and Motivation” by clicking HERE. Read each affirmative declaration, and choose the one(s) that best support your achievement of that desired outcome.
- Practice stating your desired outcome(s) and the supporting declarations in your head BEFORE your family gatherings as well as while they are in progress. Remember that it takes PRACTICE, PATIENCE and PERSEVERANCE to turn a new behavior into a habit that will happen automatically.
Remind yourself that you get to define who you are, and it doesn’t matter if anyone else agrees with you or not! Know that if you have an internal reaction to something that happens, that’s ok. As long as you remember to care for yourself, by returning your thoughts to your desired outcomes and the supporting declarations each time, you are creating your own experience of your holiday. It’s one over which you have full control, and one that supports and celebrates who you are, no matter what anyone else says or does!
What could be more perfect than that?
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About those top three goals: if you are tired of saying you want to accomplish certain things that are really important to you – making promises and commitments to yourself that “this time I really mean it!” – then watching yourself not follow through!…then I invite you to use me as a personal resource this week
I am setting aside time for 10 half-hour, pre-holiday phone consultations, specifically for finding last-minute solutions to your most stressful holiday situations. I will help you develop a specific strategy for dealing with that one family member who always pushes your buttons, or any feelings of guilt you have about not participating in others’ vision of how the holidays “are supposed to be.”
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