Boundaries are a big topic of conversation these days as some public places are opening up and there seem to be more opportunities for social engagement… As I spoke about last week, our bubbles of safety are now our own personal responsibility as they are not necessarily imposed by outside forces as when everything was closed, and everyone was being told to shelter in place.

Boundaries always have been our personal responsibility, but we all learned different rules about them. Covid necessitated mandated boundaries, and that may have felt easier for anyone who had been uncomfortable or unsure about setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. We discuss this issue a lot in our Take Back Your Life group program. We are now in a place in our lives where we have to determine what feels healthy and respectful to us as individuals as to what boundaries we want to set. Once again, boundaries are now your responsibility… This is where the rubber meets the road in terms of your own self-care…

Setting and maintaining boundaries are about self-care on a very basic level, because we have an opportunity to make changes in our old habits and patterns. This is an opportunity to assess what you want, and what is important to you… as I spoke about last week…

The poem, Autobiography in 5 Short Chapters by Portia Nelson, is one that fits this moment in time beautifully…

We are all here needing to make changes in our lives going forward in very clear and distinct ways, as our lives have forever been changed by this pandemic. Old beliefs and habits may no longer be appropriate… saying ‘yes’ when you want or need to say ‘no’ can, in fact, be a bygone habit.

Remember that you matter, and the people you love and care for matter, so your decisions have a significant impact. If in the past everyone’s overall health and well-being was something you took for granted, we have all learned that our health is not something we can take for granted.

If you want additional guidance and support in setting and maintaining new and healthy boundaries, you can access the Step By Step Guide… go to

Before we end this evening, I’ll share with you the Autobiography in 5 short chapters… Let me know your thoughts and feelings about it as you process it through the coming week (and months) ahead…

And always, remember to breathe…


By, Portia Nelson

Chapter I

I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk

I fall in.

I am lost. I am helpless.

It isn’t my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it.

I fall in again.

I can’t believe I am in the same place.

But it isn’t my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in…it’s a habit…but,

My eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street. 

Wishing you a great week ahead… with healthy and meaningful boundaries… and we breathe…

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